Shannon’s Perimenopause Journal

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Shannon’s Perimenopause Journal
A mom’s honest blog about life in her 40s
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“Mommy, are you going to die?” my daughter asked on my 6th ER trip for perimenopausal panic attacks, and the next day, a stranger on Facebook explained why my hormones wouldn’t let my nervous system calm down

If your heart pounds out of your chest while you’re sitting completely still, here’s how my panic attacks stopped in 2 weeks, without another antidepressant or HRT.

Posted by Shannon R. on October 12, 2026
An ER room seen from a patient chair, with a hospital meal tray and a foam cup in front

I was watching a movie with my husband when my heart started pounding out of my chest.

Seconds later, my brain was screaming that I was dying.

That was my first panic attack.

I know what it’s like to be folding laundry when your heart starts racing out of nowhere.

Then you can’t catch your breath, pain shoots through your chest and you’re sure you’re having a heart attack.

I know this soul-crushing panic is nothing like everyday worry, because it feels so out of control and takes over your entire being.

Deep breathing and self-talk only drag you deeper into the panic.

Afterward, you can’t function for hours, even days at a time.

You feel like you’re going quietly insane, and no one believes you.

I know you dread bedtime, because you’ll jolt awake with your stomach churning and a sense of impending doom.

I know emails that used to take 10 minutes now take all afternoon.

And every mistake could cost you your job.

I know you can’t even drive your kids to school anymore, and you only leave the house for doctor appointments.

I know the question that keeps you up at 3am, because it kept me up too: what is actually causing these attacks?

If you knew how perimenopause sets off these attacks, you’d know how to stop them instead of guessing.

I also know why therapy and antidepressants never worked for you.

And if you’re on HRT and still ending up in the ER, I know why that’s happening too.

The cause of your attacks is invisible to every EKG, heart monitor, round of bloodwork and brain MRI.

That’s why your results look perfect, and you keep getting sent home with “just anxiety.”

And if you’re reading this, your panic attacks haven’t stopped.

So I’m going to explain why your body thinks it’s dying.

And you’ll discover the one calming chemical your brain loses in perimenopause.

Then I’ll show you how I got my life back.

On night 1, I slept straight through until morning.

By day 3, I was waking up without that sense of impending doom.

In week 2, my heart started racing while I was folding laundry.

Then, for the first time in 9 months, my heart slowed back down on its own.

By week 4, emails were taking me 10 minutes, not all afternoon.

By week 8, I was driving my daughter to school again.

Today, 3 months in, I haven’t had a single panic attack since week 2.

I can sit through a whole movie with my husband without my brain screaming that I’m dying.

If you’ve ever begged, “Please tell me there is light at the end of this dark tunnel,” there is, and I found it.

My primary doctor, a cardiologist, a therapist and a psychiatrist all treated me, and not one took my hormones seriously.

The explanation you’re about to read came from a perimenopause specialist, whose entire job is treating women like us.

One of her patients, a woman in my perimenopause Facebook group, had been to the ER 4 times herself.

By the time she called me, she’d gone over a year without a panic attack.

So read my story below, not later, now.

In my group, 2 women each missed 2 years of their kids’ birthdays and school plays before they found the cause, and another missed 10 years.

I don’t want you to miss one more birthday or school play.

Here’s who I was before my first panic attack.

My panic attacks traumatized my daughter

I’d never been an anxious person.

I drove my daughter to school every morning and finished my work emails in 10 minutes.

But after that movie night, my nervous system went into fight or flight and stayed there.

My brain was convinced every new ache was a tumor or a stroke.

I started writing my daughter goodbye letters in my head.

I tried meditating, exercising, skipping coffee past noon, cutting out sugar and taking calming supplements from the drugstore.

My doctor put me on Zoloft, but I had to quit when it cut my sleep to 90 minutes a night.

I was rushed to the ER 5 times, and I left every visit feeling like I’d wasted the doctors’ time.

The 6th time, I was at the kitchen table helping my 8-year-old with her summer math workbook.

I was used to hot flashes by then, but when one rolled up my neck, my heart took off right behind it.

All I could think was, please, not in front of her.

I squeezed her hand and whispered, “Go get Dad.”

She ran yelling for him, then stood in the kitchen doorway watching me clutch my chest.

My husband drove, and from the back seat, my daughter asked in a tiny voice, “Mommy, are you going to die?”

I managed, “No, baby, Mommy’s fine,” but she knew I was lying, and she started to cry.

The view from the passenger seat as the car pulls up to the ER at night, with a crying girl in the rearview mirror

At the ER, the doctor looked at my chart and said, gently, “Your heart is fine.

“Have you thought about seeing a therapist?”

I’d been seeing one every Tuesday.

Back home, I lay awake staring at the ceiling, replaying the look on my daughter’s face in that doorway.

I couldn’t go through one more attack, and I couldn’t let her watch one more.

At 3am, I posted in my Facebook group:

Shannon R.
July 9 at 3:04 AM

I’m 44, my doctor says I’m too young for perimenopause, and I can’t live like this anymore.

Has anyone found a way to make these panic attacks stop?

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By morning, there were over 300 replies, and almost every one was a fix I’d already tried.

But one reply made me sit straight up in bed:

You’re not too young, and you’re not crazy.

Perimenopause is causing your panic attacks, and my specialist explained exactly how.

Can I call you at lunch?

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She called at 12:15.

Why your body thinks it’s dying

She texted me 2 drawings from her specialist and walked me through each one.

First, she told me why my doctors kept missing perimenopause.

Some doctors get as little as 1 hour of menopause training in all of medical school, and that’s menopause, not even perimenopause.

Every woman on earth goes through menopause, and doctors get 1 hour?

They’re uneducated about perimenopause and unfit to treat us.

That’s why so many of us get told we’re too young for perimenopause, or that “it’s just anxiety.”

Then she explained that fight or flight is your body’s alarm, and it’s there to save your life.

If a bear charged at you, that alarm would flood you with adrenaline.

Your heart would pound, your chest would tighten and your hands would shake, exactly like a panic attack.

But when a bear is chasing you, you’re too busy running to notice your heart.

At your kitchen table, your heart is all you can notice.

So your brain decides the only explanation is that you’re dying.

Your alarm isn’t broken.

So what’s wrong?

You’ve lost a calming chemical your brain makes from progesterone.

Progesterone is a hormone your ovaries make after you ovulate.

Progesterone’s calming chemical has 2 jobs:

  1. 1Keeping everyday sensations, like a twinge in your back, from setting off your alarm.
  2. 2Switching your alarm off once you’re safe.

That calming chemical does both by filling tiny switches on your brain cells.

Drawing 1 of 3
A drawing of 2 women side by side. On the left, labeled Healthy, progesterone travels from her ovaries up to her calm brain. On the right, labeled Perimenopause, her progesterone levels crash, her brain sounds the alarm and her heart pounds.

On the left, her brain turns progesterone into a calming chemical, and she stays calm.

On the right, her progesterone levels crash, her brain sounds the alarm and her heart starts pounding.

But why do your progesterone levels crash?

In perimenopause, you don’t ovulate every month, so your progesterone levels swing, high one month and almost zero the next.

That’s why one blood test can land on a high month and make your progesterone look normal.

Your progesterone
High Almost zero Jan Feb Mar Apr May Jun

Your progesterone swings take away its calming chemical in 2 ways:

  1. 1When your progesterone levels crash, your brain can’t make enough of that calming chemical.
  2. 2After enough crashes, your switches start locking out that calming chemical.
Drawing 2 of 3
A drawing of a brain cell in 3 rows. At the top, labeled Healthy, every switch is filled. In the middle, labeled Progesterone levels crash, most switches sit empty. At the bottom, labeled Progesterone levels high, the switches are locked and progesterone’s calming chemical floats outside them.

At the top, before perimenopause, every switch on the brain cell is filled.

In the middle, your progesterone levels crash, so most switches sit empty.

At the bottom, your progesterone levels are high, but the switches lock out its calming chemical.

So even with plenty of progesterone, you still don’t feel calm.

No wonder so many women on HRT say the progesterone did nothing for their panic attacks.

With empty or locked switches, a hot flash, a night sweat or a twinge in your back sets off your alarm.

That’s why your attacks seem to come out of nowhere, even in your sleep.

And with nothing to switch your alarm off, you spiral into a full-blown panic attack.

Your EKG and bloodwork look perfect because your heart is healthy, and it’s only doing what your alarm tells it to do.

Why nothing you tried worked

Deep breathing helps with stress that builds slowly, like a deadline you’ve been dreading all week.

But a panic attack hits full force within seconds, before you can take a single deep breath.

And forcing deep breaths can leave you dizzy, your hands tingling and your chest tight, until you’re convinced you’re having a heart attack.

Self-talk and therapy teach you to talk yourself out of anxious thoughts.

But your panic starts with a feeling in your body, like a hot flash, not a worried thought, so there’s nothing to argue with.

Zoloft works on serotonin, a different brain chemical that doesn’t fill your switches.

That’s why women in my group stay on antidepressants for years and keep having panic attacks.

HRT adds more progesterone, but locked switches still won’t let its calming chemical in.

But if HRT doesn’t work, aren’t we ignoring your hormones?

No, because your progesterone swings come from your ovaries winding down, a normal part of perimenopause every woman goes through.

But in some of us, the crashes hit harder and our switches lock sooner.

And perimenopause can last up to 10 years.

You can’t stop your ovaries from winding down, but you can keep your alarm quiet through the swings.

Suddenly every attack made sense.

I hadn’t woken up at 44 with a brand-new anxiety disorder.

I sat down on the kitchen floor and cried, but for once, I wasn’t scared.

What happens if you wait it out

Then it hit me that my progesterone could still be swinging at 54.

That night, I searched my Facebook group for women who’d been living with these panic attacks for years.

Shannon lying awake in bed at night, reading her phone with one hand pressed to her head, her husband asleep beside her

One had given up a career she loved.

One only felt safe once her garage door closed behind her.

One had checked herself into a psych hospital.

One was afraid her kids would feel like they’d been raised by 2 different moms.

Every one of their stories started the way mine did.

I pictured my daughter at 18, still watching her mom panic at the kitchen table.

I couldn’t let that be the mom she’d remember.

So I called my new friend back and asked how to keep my alarm quiet through the swings.

Calm that doesn’t depend on progesterone

She said my brain hadn’t forgotten how to calm down, and neither has yours.

You also have your own calming chemical, one your brain makes without progesterone.

Your own calming chemical fills those same switches, so it can do the same 2 jobs.

Before perimenopause, progesterone’s calming chemical filled most of your switches, and your own calming chemical filled the rest.

Your switches only lock out progesterone’s calming chemical, because that’s the one that kept crashing.

Your own calming chemical never crashed, so it still gets in.

But when progesterone’s calming chemical crashes or gets locked out, there isn’t enough of your own calming chemical to fill every switch alone.

So if your brain makes more of your own calming chemical, your alarm can stay quiet whether your progesterone levels are high or almost zero.

She texted me one more drawing.

Drawing 3 of 3
A drawing of the same brain cell after progesterone levels crash, now calm and blue, with every switch filled by your own calming chemical

Here’s the same brain cell after your progesterone levels crash, but now your own calming chemical fills every switch.

So even with almost no progesterone, you can feel calm.

Why not just take Xanax?

Xanax can leave you in a fog, and your body can get hooked on it within weeks.

Making more of your own calming chemical does neither.

What does your brain need to make more of your own calming chemical?

Your brain makes your own calming chemical from specific nutrients in your food.

Before perimenopause, your own calming chemical only had to fill a few switches, so the nutrients from a normal diet were enough.

Now your own calming chemical has to fill every switch alone, so your brain needs more of those nutrients than ever.

So the fix isn’t more hormones or another prescription, but higher doses of those nutrients.

In clinical studies, those doses eased anxiety, even in women in perimenopause.

But you can’t get doses that high from food alone.

Just the vitamin B6 dose would take about 70 bananas a day.

So I asked her what she takes.

Isn’t this just another supplement?

She said her specialist put her on a nightly powder with those nutrients, and she texted me what’s in it.

I wanted to believe her, but every supplement I’d tried had either done nothing or made me even more on edge.

So I spent the next 2 nights reading the label on every calming and perimenopause supplement I could find.

I was looking for a reason to say no.

Shannon at her kitchen table at night in reading glasses, frowning at the label on a supplement bottle, with other bottles around her

The perimenopause ones promised to “balance your hormones,” but no pill can stop your ovaries from winding down.

The calming ones were mostly sleep aids that leave you groggy until noon.

And the rest hid their doses in a “proprietary blend,” so you can’t tell if there’s enough of any ingredient to work.

Why hers was different

Hers was the only one with none of those 3 problems.

Her powder doesn’t promise to change your hormones, just to keep your alarm quiet through the swings.

And there’s no sedative or stimulant in hers, so you won’t feel groggy or on edge.

Every active ingredient is listed at the full dose that worked in clinical studies.

Those doses would take at least 5 big capsules a night, which is why hers is a powder.

She said the company that makes hers spent 2 years and threw out 10 formulas before this one.

One formula calmed women down but upset their stomachs, so it went in the trash too.

Every batch is tested by an independent lab for purity and strength before it ships.

And her specialist has had over 200 perimenopause patients stop having panic attacks on the same powder.

After 270 days of panic attacks, I finally felt hope.

What’s in her nightly powder

Then she sent me a photo of the tub on her nightstand.

A tub of ORYS Perimenopause Nervous System Support on a nightstand at night, next to a lamp and a glass of water

Her powder is called ORYS Perimenopause Nervous System Support.

Every scoop has 5 active ingredients:

  • Vitamin B6, 30mg, in the active form your body uses right away, so your brain can make your own calming chemical.
  • L-theanine, 200mg, which is found in green tea and helps raise your own calming chemical while you stay clear-headed.
  • Magnesium, 300mg, as bisglycinate, which helps your own calming chemical fill your switches, so a hot flash is less likely to set off your alarm.
  • Saffron, 28mg, the exact dose that eased anxiety and low mood in perimenopausal women over 12 weeks.
  • Glycine, 3,000mg, which helps you sink into deep sleep instead of jolting awake at 3am.

ORYS is made in an FDA-registered facility here in the US.

What if you’ve already tried magnesium?

Most magnesium supplements use the cheap oxide form, and your body absorbs as little as 4% of it.

The rest sits in your gut and causes cramps and diarrhea.

Bisglycinate is magnesium wrapped in glycine, so your body absorbs it like food.

So the magnesium reaches your nerves instead of sending you to the bathroom.

How do you take ORYS?

You stir one scoop into 8 oz of cold water and drink it 30 minutes before bed.

For the first 3 nights, you take half a scoop.

One scoop at night keeps working through the next day.

I was bracing for the chalky taste of every magnesium powder I’d tried.

But ORYS tastes like lightly sweet honey vanilla, and it dissolves with a few stirs.

I keep my tub next to my toothbrush, so I never forget.

The night she sent me that photo, I ordered 3 tubs.

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What happened when I shared ORYS with my group

Since then, I’ve sent the link to 14 women in my group, and here’s what 3 of them told me.

Denise, 47Sample review

I react to everything, so I was scared to even open the tub.

No foggy mornings, no racing heart and no 3am panic attacks in over a month.

I forgot what a full night without fear felt like.

Rachel, 45Sample review

I’ve been on HRT for a year, and I still landed in the ER twice this summer.

6 weeks after adding ORYS, my panic attacks are gone.

I didn’t have to stop my HRT or ask my doctor for anything new.

Kim, 49Sample review

I was starting to believe this was just who I am now, the nervous mom who can’t drive on the highway.

Last Saturday, I drove my son 2 hours to his tournament and didn’t think about my heart once.

He fell asleep in the passenger seat, and I just drove.

See if ORYS is right for you

Picture yourself 90 days from now

In your first 30 days, you stop checking your pulse every time your heart flutters.

By day 60, a hot flash hits in the middle of the grocery store, and you finish your shopping.

Your husband stops watching you out of the corner of his eye.

By day 90, you say yes to the girls’ trip you’ve been dodging all year.

And your kids stop asking if you’re okay.

Why ORYS sells out

ORYS comes in small batches, and when one sells out, the next batch takes about 4 weeks.

The last batch sold out in 19 days.

And 4 weeks is 28 nights of lying awake waiting for your next attack.

What is calm worth to you?

ORYS isn’t a $15 calming gummy, because every scoop holds the full doses that worked in clinical studies.

So compare ORYS to what you’ve already spent trying to feel normal.

One ER visit for chest pain can cost over $2,000.

A cardiologist visit and a heart monitor can add another $500 or more.

And therapy can run $150 a session.

One tub of ORYS is $44, and it lasts 30 nights.

That’s about $1.47 a night, less than a cup of coffee.

Or get 2 tubs for $79.

But most women get 3 tubs for $99, which drops the price to about $1.10 a night.

And shipping is free on 2 or 3 tubs.

3 tubs of ORYS Perimenopause Nervous System Support side by side on a nightstand in morning light Choose your bundle

Your progesterone levels are going to keep swinging whether you order today or not.

All you get to choose is whether your brain has the nutrients it needs to stay calm when the next swing hits.

So please don’t spend the next 10 years as the “nervous” one in your family.

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Every tub comes with a 90-day money-back guarantee.

If you’re still having panic attacks after 90 days, email help@tryorys.com and get every penny back.

You don’t even have to return the tub.

I’d start with 3 tubs, so you’re covered for all 90 days of your guarantee without running out.

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Questions women ask me about ORYS

Can I take ORYS with HRT, birth control or an antidepressant?

ORYS has no hormones, but if you take any prescription, show your doctor the label first.

Do I have to take ORYS forever?

No, nothing in ORYS is habit-forming, so you can stop whenever you want.

What if I’m not sure my panic attacks are from perimenopause?

Irregular periods, hot flashes and night sweats are common signs of perimenopause. Get your heart checked first, and if it’s healthy, the 90-day guarantee lets you try ORYS risk-free.

Is ORYS safe if I’m pregnant or breastfeeding?

No, don’t take ORYS if you’re pregnant or breastfeeding, or if you could be pregnant.

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